In the corporate world, where decisions are made at lightning speed, it's all too easy to fall into the trap of judgment. We see a colleague make a decision we wouldn't have, or a team member struggle with a task we find simple, and suddenly, judgment rears its head. But what if, instead of allowing judgment to create distance, we viewed it as a chance to connect and understand more deeply?

Why Do We Judge?

At its core, judgment often stems from unmet needs or insecurities. When we judge others, it can be a reflection of our own fears or dissatisfaction. Perhaps we see in others what we fear in ourselves, or maybe we judge because we feel a lack of control or understanding. Recognizing this is the first step in transforming judgment into a tool for connection.

Unmet Needs Underlying Judgment

Need for Understanding: Often, judgment arises from a lack of understanding. We see only the surface and make assumptions. By seeking to understand the context and motivations behind others' actions, we can replace judgment with empathy.

Need for Security: Judgment can be a defence mechanism to protect our self-esteem. By judging others, we create a false sense of superiority that shields us from our own vulnerabilities.

Need for Connection: Ironically, judgment can also stem from a desire for connection. We may judge others because we feel isolated or disconnected, and judgment becomes a misguided attempt to bridge that gap.

A Framework for Effective Leadership

Effective leadership is not about having all the answers, but about fostering an environment where understanding and connection thrive. Here’s how you can turn judgment into a leadership strength:

Cultivate Curiosity: When you feel the urge to judge, pause and ask questions. What might be influencing this person's behaviour? How can I learn from their perspective? Curiosity opens the door 

to deeper understanding.

Practice Empathy: Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Consider their challenges, pressures, and motivations. Empathy dissolves judgment and builds bridges.

Encourage Open Dialogue: Create a culture where team members feel safe to express themselves without fear of judgment. Open dialogue fosters trust and collaboration.

Reflect on Your Own Needs: When you catch yourself judging, take a moment to reflect on your own unmet needs. What is this judgment telling you about yourself? Use this insight to grow as a leader.

Conclusion

Judgment is a natural human response, but it doesn't have to be a barrier. By recognizing the unmet needs that underlie our judgments, we can transform them into opportunities for connection and growth. As leaders, embracing this perspective not only enhances our own development but also strengthens our teams and organizations.